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And as latchkey kids, Gen X grew up to be the workhorses: the generation most likely to define themselves by output and impact, and the least likely to ask for help. Just 26% of Gen Xers work with a financial advisor, compared with 43% of boomers. These two facts drastically change what retirement looks like for this generation.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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Which is why, for many, it doesn\u2019t feel like an invitation. It feels like a threat to their identity \u2014 and a challenge unlike any they\u2019ve faced: turning decades of savings into an income stream. A hurdle where they may have to ask for help \u2014 something they\u2019re not used to doing.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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The biggest retirement shift in a generation is starting to happen and once again, nobody\u2019s watching. A generation sandwiched between the boomers and the millennials, Gen X built careers in the gaps, ran companies from the middle, grinding away while everyone else got the headlines.<\/p>\n

I should know. I\u2019m a Gen Xer. Born in 1967, I\u2019m a bona fide latchkey kid. My mother was a registered nurse, and every day after school I unlocked the door for myself and my two younger siblings, got us a snack, and watched The Brady Bunch<\/em>. I built my career from the ground up and spent more than two decades in the 401(k) industry, helping Fortune 500 companies design their plans\u2014then retired four-and-a-half years ago.<\/p>\n

Why Gen X Says \u201cOne More Year\u201d: Net-Worth and Self-Worth<\/h2>\n

If you spend time with Gen Xers nearing retirement, you\u2019ll likely hear this line: \u201cOne more year.\u201d <\/em>But it\u2019s not a plan\u2014it\u2019s a stall. \u201cOne more year\u201d is two questions in disguise\u2014one about money, one about identity.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Net worth gets all the attention in retirement planning. But self-worth is the other barrier, the one nobody talks about, and it holds people back just as much. Solve for both, and \u201cone more year\u201d becomes this<\/em> year.<\/p>\n

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I know because this would have been me had it not been for a voluntary buyout offer I received. Former colleagues \u2014 older than me, and after decades as senior executives, likely better positioned to retire than I was \u2014 didn\u2019t take it. Many expressed to me they didn\u2019t know how they\u2019d fill their time and it was easier to keep working than to deal with those existential questions.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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Gen X has no pension-eligible retirement date. That 401(k) balance, large or small, never reads \u201cthis is enough.\u201d It fluctuates with the market, and raises daunting questions: Annuitize? Bucket strategy? Stay in plan or roll to an IRA? Convert to Roth? When to take Social Security?<\/p>\n

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Rather than dig into those daunting questions, \u201cone more year\u201d becomes seductive. It feels like prudence. But it\u2019s often fear wearing prudence as a costume.<\/p>\n

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Gen X spent 40 years accumulating\u2014most heeded the advice: take the company match, don\u2019t take loans, don\u2019t cash out when changing jobs, and let compounding do the work. And for many, it did. The average 401(k) balance for Gen Xers is $215,600, but when you look at Gen X\u2019ers who continuously contributed to their plan for 15 years it jumps to $648,800.<\/p>\n

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But now they have to shift gears. Accumulation was an automated habit, every paycheck, money socked away without a thought. Decumulation is the opposite: withdrawing for the first time and no paycheck refilling it. It feels like a leap of faith.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n

I know because I experienced a worst-case scenario in my first year. I retired in December 2021 and the S&P 500 fell 19.4% in 2022. My portfolio was designed to sustain such drops, but it was hard to stomach, knowing I wasn\u2019t refilling my pot.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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Self worth<\/h2>\n

When a workhorse can no longer pull its load, it loses its defining purpose. Historically, that meant being put out to pasture, or worse. Its value was tied to its function.<\/p>\n

Gen X learned to rely on themselves before they were old enough to know that was unusual. Self-reliance wasn\u2019t a value they adopted; it was all they knew. As they grew up, that competence\u2014being capable, being needed, being the one who handles it\u2014moved from the front stoop to the job and became the core of who they are. Their careers turned into the scoreboard of an identity built on \u201cgetting \u2019er done.\u201d<\/p>\n

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So retiring isn\u2019t just an income-stream challenge; for many it\u2019s an identity crisis. An advisor can run the Monte Carlo simulations a thousand times and show the plan succeeds in 95 of 100 scenarios\u2014and they\u2019ll still hesitate. Because the question they can\u2019t quite articulate is \u201cwho am I when I\u2019m no longer the one with the answers, the one who gets \u2019er done?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cOne more year\u201d postpones both\u2014the drawdown and the identity reckoning. That\u2019s why showing them the numbers is rarely enough. The numbers were never the only thing.<\/p>\n

I know this now. After spending decades in the 401(k) industry, retirement prep was all financial: solve for that and you\u2019re ready. I thought retirement was the ultimate vacation. But when I retired, I learned it was nothing like any vacation I\u2019ve ever taken \u2014 a vacation is an escape from your life. Retirement is your life.<\/p>\n

That left me asking not just \u201cWhat now?\u201d but \u201cWho am I now?\u201d One friend described being attending her retirement party as like \u201cbeing alive at your own funeral.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Most people don\u2019t talk about this. I thought it was just me \u2014 it wasn\u2019t. I took to social media, shared my struggle, and overnight my first video received 80,000 views \u2014 many felt the way I did. As a bona fide Gen Xer, this was a gap, and I was going to figure it out.<\/p>\n

Workhorse or Thoroughbred?<\/h2>\n

What Gen X became, over four decades of figuring it out, isn\u2019t a workhorse, it\u2019s a thoroughbred. When thoroughbreds come off the track, they don\u2019t get put out to pasture; they\u2019re too valuable. They find new ground: dressage, jumping, trail riding. Same horse. Same fire. Different course. But even thoroughbreds need trainers.<\/p>\n

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The most valuable thing an advisor can offer isn\u2019t a sharper projection. It\u2019s permission, backed by a financial plan that works. Three out of four Gen Xers don\u2019t have an advisor today, but they\u2019re going to need help. The latchkey kids taught themselves to unlock the front door. This is one door they shouldn\u2019t have to open alone. Advisors should be there to say: You have enough. You\u2019ve done enough. You can stop now. At last, someone will be home.<\/p>\n

The opinions expressed in Fortune.com commentary pieces are solely the views of their authors and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and beliefs of <\/em>Fortune.<\/em><\/p>\n

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